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Skinny Minny Speed Dating: Fat Chicks Need Not Apply.

A new dating event in New York City seeks to pair men of all sizes with “svelte women size 0-8.” Which means, Big Boobie Speed Dating is just a matter of time.
If you are a dude living in NYC and have a “No Fat Chicks” dating policy, then boy are you are in luck. There is a new speed dating service called “Skinny Minny Dating” that promises men (of all sizes) a gaggle of women size 8 and under to choose from. According to the site’s page:
“We all have relationship ‘deal-breakers’, and that does not make us shallow, we’re just single New Yorkers that know what we want and are attracted to. Obviously there is more to it than just height or size, but for many of us that initial “attraction” factor is at least a starting point.”
I’m going to go ahead and say that if your relationship deal-breakers include a clothing size, then congratulations, you are officially shallow. If you want to be shallow that is your right but let’s not act like it’s anything else. Especially when your next paragraph says:
“According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the average clothing size for adult women in the United States is a 14, making our upcoming “Skinny Minny” night for svelte women size 0-8 anything but average. Guys, no need to worry about meeting a biggie-size chick “down-sizing” to an 8 like when you’re dating on-line. We’ll be checking labels at the door!”
If you want to claim non-shallowness, you might want to take a pass on using the phrase “biggie-chick down-sizing to an 8.” Just a suggestion.
There are many awful things about being fat in this society — there is a ton of stereotyping, stigma and shame heaped on us. But you know what I don’t have to deal with? Wasting my time dating guys who would attend this event. My delightfully squishy fat is a shallow-dude deterrent. And that’s fine, because I will only date people who are brave and enlightened enough to find beauty outside the current cultural stereotype.
While I think Skinny Minny Speed Dating is sheer jackassery, I would never make the argument that it shouldn’t be allowed. Men who only want women size 0-8 and women who are willing to date men who would exclude them if they were a size 10 should be allowed to get together and talk about who-the-hell-cares-what for 10 minutes at a time. Have fun.
I do wonder how these women picture the future. Do they believe that they will never be above a size 8? Or do they believe that these men will love them for who they are — even though they dated them for how they looked? If they get breast cancer will a man who wanted to avoid a “biggie chick downsizing” stay with a woman who has one breast? If something happens and they gain weight will they feel that their man is justified in leaving them since they broke the deal that brought them together?
I can’t answer for anyone but I can say that I’m infinitely glad that I don’t have to deal with it.


Dalrock is typical: ”Today’s unmarried twentysomething women have given men an ultimatum: I’ll marry when I’m ready, take it or leave it. This is, of course, their right. But ultimatums are a risky thing, because there is always a possibility the other side will decide to leave it. In the next decade we will witness the end result of this game of marriage chicken.”

The endgame Dalrock warns about is already in play for hordes of unmarried professional women – the well-coiffed lawyers, bankers and other success stories. Many thought they could put off marriage and families until their 30s, having devoted their 20s to education, establishing careers and playing the field. But was their decade of dating a strategic mistake?

Jamie, a 30-year-old Sydney barrister, thinks so: ”Women labour under the impression they can have it all. They can have the career, this carefree lifestyle and then, at the snap of their fingers, because they are so fabulous, find a man. But if they wait until their 30s they’re competing with women who are much younger and in various ways more attractive.”

The crisis for single women in this age group seeking a mate is very real. Almost one in three women aged 30 to 34 and a quarter of late-30s women do not have a partner, according to the 2006 census statistics. And this is a growing problem. The number of partnerless women in their 30s has almost doubled since 1986.