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I am dating Siddharth Roy Kapoor: Vidya Balan.

National award winning actress Vidya Balan has finally come out about her relationship with UTV head Siddharth Roy Kapoor but says she is in no hurry to get married to him.
“I don’t have any plans yet… and there is no engagement ring yet. It’s a while away and I am in no hurry. But it’s on my mind and there is a plan at some point. There is someone in my life,” Vidya told PTI.
When asked whether she is dating the UTV movies honcho, Vidya said, “I will admit that I am dating him but not beyond that.” The Dirty Picture star, 34, who has been recently appointed as a Bollywood Ambassador of Victoria, was here to promote the Indian Film Festival in Melbourne commencing from June 11.
Asked about her take on Rakhi Sawant’s claim to appear as a better lead role in a Bengali version of The Dirty Picture, Vidya said, “I did my best and I am sure if she (Rakhi) brings her own originality to the portrayal of Silk, it will be great and I will be more than happy to watch her.”
Clad in beautiful white saree with black embroidered border, Vidya admitted that she was a bit apprehensive about how her parents would react to her portrayal of South siren Silk Smitha in the film.
“I was finally relieved after my father came during the interval and said that he could only see Silk rather than Vidya. There is no bigger compliment for me than that,” she said.
Dirty Picture was a life time opportunity for me as an actress. It was an opportunity not to be missed also because it was completely out of my comfort zone. But it did take lot of time for me decide about the role,” she added.
“The most encouraging part of doing this role has been that people now think that I am capable of doing this kind of a film,” she said, adding that she was highly satisfied after knowing that her performance in the film was seen as everything but sleazy.
Vidya, who was brought up in Mumbai in a middle class south Indian family, said she always dreamt of becoming an actress and do various roles. “I don’t want to be the kind of girl I am on screen, because off screen I am Vidya Balan and on screen I want to play different people.”

Online dating scams break hearts

The trauma caused by online dating scams is worse than any other, because the victims experienced ‘double hit’ – loss of money and loss of ‘romantic relationship hit’ – says an expert.

Professor Monica Whitty, of the University of Leicester, also revealed that online dating scammers groom their victims by developing ‘hyper-personal’ relationships.

Professor Whitty’s study focused on fraud where criminals set up fake identities using stolen photographs (often of models or army officers) and pretend to develop a romantic relationship with their victim.

This is often done using online dating sites and social networking sites. At some point during the relationship they pretend to be in urgent need of money and ask for help. Many victims have been persuaded to part with large sums of money before their suspicions are aroused.

To find out what techniques scammers use 15 victims were interviewed (11 women; four men).

Professor Whitty asked them about their relationship history; what psychological state they were in before the scam; the full description of the scam; why they believe they were persuaded to part with money (if they did); details of what happened after the scam (e.g. how police dealt with it); how they were psychologically affected by the scam; and what their current state is.

The results showed that basic marketing techniques were used to groom victims, increasing the feelings of a genuine relationship and leaving victims susceptible to fraud.

“Our data suggests that the numbers of British victims of this relatively new crime is much higher than reported incidents show. It also confirms law enforcement suspicions that this is an underreported crime, and thus more serious than first thought,” said Professor Whitty.

“This is a concern not solely because people are losing large sums of money to these criminals, but also because of the psychological impact experienced by victims of this crime. It is our view that the trauma caused by this scam is worse than any other, because of the ‘double hit’ experienced by the victims – loss of money and loss of ‘romantic relationship,'” she noted.

Elsewhere in the study Dr Tom Buchanan (University of Westminster) looked at the psychological characteristics of victims. Over 1000 participants answered an online questionaire.

The reponses showed that people with strong romantic beliefs, who idealised romantic partners were most likely to fall prey to online scammers.

Professor Whitty presented her finding at the British Psychological Society Annual Conference on 19 April, held at the Grand Connaught Rooms, London.